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Saturday, June 23, 2018

Looking on the Brighter Side of Life

I haven't posted anything about "personal battles" in the past months. Even if I feel the need to do so. Perhaps I've outgrown my somber tendencies and prefer to just live my life at the moment, free from toxic thoughts. I've resolved within myself that I don't dwell on pity things anymore.

Did time change my ways?

I guess not. I'm still the same girl who can be morose and erupt when provoke. The only difference is that I know now how to control my outbursts and how to soften my  approach in life. And treat each day as an opportunity to learn from my environment. But I'm far from being a saint, I still have this dangerous streak when being pushed to my limits.

Over the years, I learned the art of adjusting well with my surroundings, with the people I encountered, with the things I can't control, and view each bad circumstance as a vehicle for change and personal growth, an avenue of amassing learning and gaining wisdom.  Treating it as a rudder that will lead me to where I should be growing as a worthy human being instead of viewing it as a lethal pole that pushes me down the pit. I also developed a skill of positive relating where building bridges in communication towards one another is more important than putting walls.

I also grew tired spitting out my frustrations in my blog because I feel it won't take me anywhere. It won't change the way people look at me. This is the very reason why I have stopped posting rants or spiteful thoughts in my social media accounts, because I feel it's pretty childish to unload personal grievances in social media. Internet should be the venue of building communication and spreading inspiring information and not a repository of hate, acrimony and bitterness. I'd rather resolve my personal troubles privately than trumpet it publicly. Social media can't fix burden and loneliness and disappointments, in fact, it might even make things worst because it will open a ground for  misconception, dispute and intrigues.

But I've noticed that no matter how much I've tried to act fairly, animosity will still creep in. Something that doesn't surprise me anymore. Because as long as  we continue creating a room for ourselves to get what we want and continue relating to one another, constant disagreement, differences and misunderstanding and misconceptions are inevitable. Because we are alive and we've emotions, our reaction is often based on how outside factors affect our views and how other treat us.

We also react based on how we interpret events in our surroundings, how sharp our common sense and how emotionally mature we are. Sometimes the response is often not what we expected perhaps because we aren't in the equal footing of learning and the level of wisdom we possessed are way too different. So our reaction to a certain situation isn't always the same. We act based on how our subconscious feeds our senses, not merely logic. But then it boils down on who we are and what personal culture we possess. We came from a different upbringing, different level of thinking, and contrasting life's views, so it's always possible that we'll clash.

I'm always disappointed to see  people, especially those who are expected to unify dividing parties, build a wall instead of helping things out to subside tension. And those plain individuals who act as though they're damsels in distress. However,  seeing these circumstances unfolding before my eyes doesn't entirely surprise me at all. Because I know why it occurred. People act based on how mature their sense of judgment and how they view and handle the value of relating.

I'm battling personal demons too because no matter how much I tried to appear nice and accommodating, there are times that I'm being pushed to the edge. Not that I'm excessively conceited but my behavior is just a reaction to what others have shown me.  I can be very gentle and chummy but when I see people behaving as though they're the innocent party in the story and I'm the monster, It's time to move away.

I've come to a point in my life where I don't care if a person will talk to me or spite me. I also know how to play hard ball. Life is too short to be wasted on individuals  who suck energy. So it's either dismiss them as nuisances or treat them as if they don't exist. Though I hate building walls with people, if the one standing behind the wall is as useless as a doormat and not worthy of my time, then better leave it that way.

Anyway, life teaches us that we don't meet people by chance, we meet them by reasons, they'll either serve as blessings or provide us lessons. Those who serve as blessings will continue to be with us in our journey but those who serve as lessons are those who are not meant to be with us. So let them stay behind the wall.  And move on. Be with the people who appreciate our value and understand our personality and stay away from the nonsense.

I want to attract positivism within myself and spread it to those who are willing to join me in my little world. Like others who bathed themselves with a sunshine of optimism, I am now seeing things differently. More on the brighter side of life. I have stopped looking at the dark hues because there's nothing there to see, instead, I am gazing now at the bright rays filtering through the cracks in the wall. It brings vibrancy and a different level of motivation.

Though, yes, at times I hit rock bottom and have trouble dealing with terrible people in my surroundings, may it be colleagues or friends outside the workplace. I am taking things slow. I don't want to spend each day analyzing why someone feels bad about me. Or stop getting in touch. There are still important things to think over and I don't want to drain my energy overanalyzing cranky situations.

Life has so many twists and turns and it's quite impossible not to fail at anything in life. But I've a better understanding now how the world works on and how to deal with life's kinks. I want to live a positive, happy life. Just like the old adage about wine, "we are tougher and stronger as we age". Positive people get better with age.

I resolved that I should not spend each day wondering why things turn out badly or why a certain aspect in my life is not as rosy as others. Each person is unique and follows a different path in life. So I will have to focus on my own and do what makes it brighter. Everything happens for a reason and I should not let negativism and failures ruin the prospect of happiness. There's always a perfect time for everything. And reasons why a certain thing did not work. 

Time to focus on the brighter side of life. We can't change people how they feel about us. So don't ever try. Just live your life and be happy! 🙌😁🌻

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