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Thursday, October 18, 2018

October 18, 2018

Perhaps, I Am A Bad Option

If only life has a delete button, I will spend a day sorting out memories and delete those useless moments that made me feel like a complete stupid.

There are moments in life that we really feel so bad, so down, so empty, hitting rock-bottom, which I guess is normal because we're still alive and we're interacting. There's always a downside.

But in due time, these things shall come to pass. Feelings aren't permanent, it can change overtime, it never stays longer in our hearts the moment we realize it doesn't make sense.

Lately, I've been reeling towards a feeling of rejection and abandonment. Felt like no one wants to take me in, or perhaps, I just made myself I believe someone is into me. One sided expectations always kills.

The best lesson I learned: don't allow yourself to be attached emotionally to a person right away because wrong assumptions can emotionally damage us.

But things happen the way we never expected it to take place. Feelings just flow and I swam with it freely until I realized I was already drowning but too late to pull myself up. I was in the deepest part of the ocean. But I need to. Need to pull myself and lift my head above the water. And stay afloat.

I need to give up that certain thinking things will still take place. It won't. So i need to keep distance and wrap myself in a safe sanctuary away from everything and everyone that remind me of that feeling.

I need to get rid of those moments of fun where I will be reminded of the presence. I need to let go of those traces of memories to get back on track.

For a moment I thought my life is a seies of disappointment and rejection. No one wants to take me in. Perhaps, I'm a bad option because I'm not always part of the choices.

Sunday, October 14, 2018

October 14, 2018

Why Princess Eugenie Didn't Wear a Veil

HRH Princess Eugenie of York opted not to wear a bridal veil on her wedding day

The Queen's granddaughter, Princess Eugenie of York, married her boyfriend of eight years, Jack Brooksbank, in a glittery ceremony at St. George's Chapel near Windsor Castle attended by most royal family members and celebrities closer to the couple.

Princess Eugenie on her wedding day
Prince Andrew helping out his daughter's dress. Photo credit: BBC

Eugenie, whose real name is Eugenie Victoria Helena and named after Queen Victoria's daughters,  Queen Eugenia, the grandmother of King Juan Carlos of Spain, and Princess Helena, is currently 9th in the line of succession to the British throne. She is the youngest child of the Queen's second son, HRH Prince Andrew of York, and his estranged wife, Sarah, Duchess of York. She has an older sister, Princess Beatrice. 

The couple leaving the chapel
Photo credit: BBC news

The 28-year-old princess, who completed an Art history degree from the Newcastle University, has been active ly supporting charities for children and has patronage at Royal National Orthopedic Hospital in London. 

New Age Wedding for a British Princess

Princess Eugenie is the first British princess of the blood royal to marry in 45 years since her aunt, Princess Anne, the Princess Royal. So, all eyes were on her when she stepped down from the vintage Rolls Royce bridal car with her father, Prince Andrew, the Duke of York.

She looked very radiant in her elegant ivory satin wedding dress designed by her favorite fashion designers, Peter Pilotto and Christoper De Vos. The ball gown-inspired bridal dress itself is washed off glamorously with intricate details of delicate handmade floral print and historical elements attributed to the princess's family. 

The overflowing gown features a low-cut bodice that folded around the shoulders down to the back, draping into a full length train. To keep up with the royal tradition for royal brides, the dress has full long sleeves that almost covered the princess's hands.

Prince Andrew walked his daughter to the ceremony inside St. George Chapel
Photo credit: The Guardian

Eugenie also wore a tiara lent to her by her grandmother, the Queen. The Greville Emerald Kokoshnik tiara surrounded with several diamonds is part of the crown jewel collections and previously belonged to the Queen Mother. Eugenie also wore a piece of diamond and emerald earrings - a wedding gift from the groom.

He bridal bouquet is not far from the previous bouquets of all royal brides, a bun consists of lily of the valley, baby blue thistles, white spray roses, sprigs of myrtle and trailing ivy.

From everyone's perspective, the York princess looked so perfect in her wedding get-up, dazzles in diamonds and glamour that royalty personify. However, there's one wedding traditional piece that conspicuously missing in her attire. A bridal veil.

Where's the princess's bridal veil?

This might have been the common question of everyone who had seen the ceremony in Windsor. One thought the princess or her designers deliberately forgotten to put on this very traditional wedding piece. And was just left somewhere. In the hotel. Or in the car perhaps. But nope! The princess herself chose not to wear the veil! So why?

Until recently, we rarely heard a bride ditched out wearing a bridal veil. Much more if she is a princess. It's part of Christian, even non-Christian, wedding tradition and every bride, royal or commoner, always walked-down-the aisle, with face hidden beneath the veil.

So why the Queen's granddaughter opted not to wear this traditional wedding peice?

The scar she wanted to show

The reason is very sentimental, something that defines of who she is today. When the princess was 12 years old, she undergone a life-threatening surgery to correct her scoliosis, a medical condition where spine curved sideways. This surgery left a revealing vertical scar at her back that runs down from her neck to her low back.

Princess Eugenie has been vocal with this scar as a statement of her survival from living a hampered life. She considered it as a life-changing scar that definitely impacted her growing up years. She treated it as a strong statement of recovery, of survival, of courage, of hope, and something that should not be kept hidden behind her dress on one of the most important days of her life.

So she instructed her bridal dress designers to create a grown that has a low-cut back to show her scar. She wanted to give a message of hope and encouragement to everyone who suffered the same medical condition as her. Not to give up.

Such a strong statement of courage, isn't it? 

Wedding as a venue of empowerment message and personal details.

Yes, a wedding is always a venue of empowerment among women, who we are and what message we wanted to tell to the world. As weddings bring women to another chapter of their lives, it's a perfect venue to give message to the world who we are, what we are up to, what lessons and influence we wanted to impart. It's always memorable to leave an impact to the lives of the people on one of the most important occasions in our lives. Oh, I can't wait to be married. I'm thinking now, what message I'll try to give to the world as I turn another chapter of my life. 😂

Couple's personal choice how their wedding should run is also very important. Every element of the wedding should reflect the personality and preferences of the bride and groom and not according to public perception and friends' expectation.

The Momentous Family Picture-taking

Royal family has this long-cherished tradition of taking family pictures with both sets of family. And since Queen Elizabeth II is the reigning sovereign of the British Commonwealth, she and her husband, HRH Prince Philip, the Duke of Edinburgh, are traditionally required to take part in the photo taking.

The British royals always take their position in the state drawing room at Buckingham Palace during wedding family pictures. This has been the venue of the wedding family pictures of all children of the Queen including grandsons, Prince William and Prince Harry.

So when it's Eugenie's takes turn to walk down the aisle, this grand room once again the venue of taking sweet mementos. However, this occasion is quite different.

A moment to remember.
Fergie standing near Prince Philip
Photo credit: The Guardian

Ever since her divorce to Prince Andrew in 1996, Sarah, Duchess of York, hasn't been seen sharing a place with Andrew's father, Prince Philip. It was noted that during the troubled marriages of Charles and Andrew, the Duke of Edinburgh was the most vocal in expressing his disgust towards the breakdown of his children's marriages.

The bride's mother and sister,
Sarah, Duchess of York, and a Princess Beatrice. Photo credit: The Guardian

And the lapses of the Duchess of York, who was behaving inappropriately towards the end of her marriage to Andrew, were not forgiven by Prince Philip. He made it clear, Sarah or Fergie to some, would never get near the royal family again, for embarrassing the monarchy.

Although, the Duke and Duchess of York maintained a warm relationship after divorce and had seen taking vacations with their children (they didn't remarry also), Sarah hasn't seen joining the royal family since the divorce.

The Queen and The Duke of Edinburgh attending their granddaughter's wedding
Photo credit: The Guardian

Eugenie's wedding is the first public occasion of the royal family that saw the Duchess of York standing next to Prince Philip in a family photo. Which is a bit surreal and memorable.

Take note also that Sarah didn't lose her title, Duchess of York, after her divorce to Prince Andrew because she didn't remarry.

With this, let's wish Princess Eugenie and her husband a happy and blissful family life. Best wishes and congratulations! 

Saturday, October 6, 2018

October 06, 2018

Jomalig Island on a DIY Trip

Nothing beats monotony of life than embark into a long road trip with friends. And once a year, Delai Lama puts it that we should travel to some place we have never been before.  Traveling breaks the redundancy and boredom of life. It pacifies exhaustion, and helps us back on track again.

Last weekend, I had an opportunity to unwind somewhere, to a remote island rarely visited by travelers which made the whole adventure more exvii and memorable.

I was with my colleagues, Rapid, Mikko and Angge. And together, we conquered the odds and embarked into a thrill of wonder, experiencing a life in the island, in an off-the-beaten track atmosphere.

It was a surreal moment as we traversed the rugged countryside, explored the gorgeous beaches and enjoyed the clear water. Life in the island is truly fascinating!

Had so much memories to keep from this adventure. The moments of fun. The joy of being in a remote island. The fresh air. Balmy surroundings. And yes, fresh food! It's good to be with friends discovering things in an out-of-town adventure. It makes life more meaningful and exciting.

Photo credit for above photos: Rapid Canonizado

For details of our trip, check my travel site Gourmand Travel Guide

Saturday, September 15, 2018

September 15, 2018

A Thrill of Wonder at Hello Kitty Cafe!

Dining at a cafe inspired by one of the most beloved cartoon characters of all time is a real treat! Finally, after months of stalling it, had a chance to dine at Hello Kitty Cafe with one of my colleagues, Zy. Such a great fulfillment in my part because I've been thinking it for so long to try the dishes. 

The food rocks! Though quite pricey, it was worth the value of money. The dining style itself reflects sophistication. French extravagance with the goodness of pastries and lattes. Who could actually complain? The glamour and fantasy rolled into one.

I chose the creamy pink carbonara because I was stunned to hear such food. Pasta washed off by pink? Such a rare item to be overlooked. When the plate was laid in the table, I hesitated to eat the thing because the design was so dreamy I didn't want to ruin it. Haha!

Everything was so fantastic. From the interior, gold trimmings, Hello Kitty designs, the cool atmosphere, the food and the matcha latte. This café is worth for another visit!

Read my full blog about this food adventure in my travel blog, CLICK IT HERE

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

September 11, 2018

Erase Organics Whitening Serum

Here's a new skincare finds that provides me with an ultra satisfying result! Erase Organics Whitening Serum. A yellowish, oil-based exfoliating liquid that provides skin with extra smoothness. 

Serums are skin products that contain active ingredients which are just right for the skin. It specifically targets specific skin problem like acne, wrinkles, pigmentation and signs of premature aging. What I love about serum is that unlike moisturizer, it doesn't contain any thickness feel.

After months of finding the right serum for my face, I found this brand and tried it weeks ago. And after just a few days of application, result is very visble right away. Felt my skin has tightened and has that extra glow, youthful glow to be specific. This beauty regimen won't cost you any financial trouble since it's just very affordable. The 20ml bottle is only Php225.00 and for serum product, this is already cheaper.

I've been to many skincare products, looking for an exact combination that can help reduce the pores but to no avail. But this product from Erase organics is just so amazing!

I like how it works in my skin. After each application, the liquid is easily absorbed and doesn't feel greasy. It dries up and doesn't irritate.

My skin is so visibly smooth, pinkish with a youthful glow. I like how it smoothens my face and how it helps minimize my facial skin pores. Ultra satisfying!

Sunday, September 9, 2018

September 09, 2018

Things You Didn't Hear About Me and Some Random Questions

I chose these pics because I love
Bag of Beans and wish to go back there!

But that's not what this post is all about! Haha!

Well, it's 3:00 in the morning and some random thoughts just hit my mind to keep me awake. People say that - when you suddenly awaken at 3AM, it's either something had spooked you or someone else is thinking about you. Duh! 😂 In my case, it's neither. I woke up at 10:00 in the evening and haven't gone to bed since. I need to stay awake until 5:00 to get plenty of sleep later in the day.  I'm on a night shift. I need enough energy to get through the night. 🙄

 Oh yeah, some random thoughts 😅

Couldn't think of anything to do. My appetite in writing seems not on the run. I haven't started anything on my newest novel and couldn't find any momentum to start drafting the plot. So I just posted updates in my travel blog and made some revision on previous posts the whole day.

And to keep myself a little busy at this ungodly hour, I need to blog 😄 And what else could possibly be the best thing to write when I'm lazy to think of any hardcore writing topics? Random questions! I love it. Answering random questions is a great escape from weariness and the best way to keep up with writing.

Here we go!! 🤗🤓

Where were you 10 hours ago?
I went to the grocery. Did some quick supermarket errand 😊

Look around, what have you seen?
Oh God! It's 3AM. I hope not to see sinister figures. 😱Okay, our cats and dogs sleeping comfortably.

Any sounds you hear?
Why questions seem scaring me? 🙄 our cats scratching our wall. Haha!

Do you smoke?

How about alcoholic drinks?

Any favorite chips?
I don't eat chips that much. But whenever cravings strike I just grab a bag of potato chips. Love it.

Do you binge?
Sometimes yes. Cornflakes or oatmeal cookies.

Do you cook?
Yes. I personally cook my own food.

How about baking?
Yep. I bake simple goodies like pancakes and muffins. Brownies can be too ambitious haha!

Lights off, lights on?
What's that? Uhmm. Lights off when I sleep. Lights on when I'm reading.

Have you been in the newspaper?
Yes. Back in 2010 when I joined an empowering seminar for women sponsored by the Davao bloggers community.

What's the dumbest thing you've ever cried about?
Couldn't think of anything dumb. Each time I cry over something, I know it's worthy of my tears.

Who would you hate to see naked?
Donald Trump. Come on!

Are you religious?
In a way yes. I observed heartily all obligations and traditions of the Roman Catholic Church.

Your family tradition that seems so weird to others.
We considered Good Friday as the holiest day of observance. Thus, we only spend it in the church or in the house but never on a vacation or anywhere. We usually foregoing taking a bath on this day and take only one full meal.

Your Current Favorite Song? Why?
One Call Away by Charlie Puth. I find it so melodious and sweet and sentimental. It reminded me of my happier days in the previous function I was in and the colleagues I got to be closed with 😢 I missed them. I missed those moments we shared. I missed the laughter and the fun. It was one of the happiest moments  in my working life. Why good things never last? 😭

When was the last time you cried?
Last night. Just a thought of all the might have beens. And all the what ifs and buts in my life. 

Ever felt angry for the last days?
Angry towards myself, yes. For continue to assume things wrongly. For continue to cling on some hope. But looks like I'm navigating the impossible. Seems I didn't learn a lesson after all. I'm still in my old self. Gullible and weak and stubborn.

How do you define love?
Love is a decision. It's a choice. Not just feelings. When you feel like falling in love, you're not supposed to plunge right away without weighing things, without checking your conscience and judgment. That's why it's a decision to make, not just an emotional duty.

When can you say it's love?
Well, there's some truth about the tale of Cinderella. It's love when the shoe fits perfectly. When everything is so comfortable and cozy and right. When that person lifts your spirit and makes everything so balance and relax.

Have you found The One?
Let love find me Haha! 😜. I'm tired analyzing my destiny. Just how many times I've said I have found the one but turns out to be a false alarm? I haven't been into a relationship before. I am not close to any guy. I am always scared of men. But there were few occasions that I got acquainted with men. And felt the beat of my heart. But their interest darted elsewhere, and to someone else, not on me. 😕

Ever had a first kiss?
Geeez not yet! I haven't been into a relationship. 

Any idea for a perfect date?
I like walk on a beach and long conversation. And yes, the traditional dinner date.

If someone asks you out. Either to movie or dinner. Which one you prefer?
Dinner. We're still getting to know each other, it's crazy to go on a movie date right away. Dinner is the most ideal. It allows two persons to talk and get to know each other well.

You prefer someone who is?
Someone whom I feel very comfortable with. Someone who is fun to be with. Easy to go with. Someone who can make me laugh. And whom I can share stories. I like smart guys. Someone who can talk anything under the sun and with substance. 

Are you easily attracted towards an opposite sex physically? 
Nope. In fact, I didn't know what's my attraction towards men. All I know is that I find eyes as the sexiest part of a man's body. But I couldn't figure out what sex appeal truly means. Perhaps, I'm a visual type of person and not sensual.

So who is your greatest crush?
Direk Lino Cayetano back then. Haha! He is intelligent, smart and with a pair of soulful brown eyes.

Any culture outside your own that you are interested with?
Japanese culture. Perhaps because I Iove oriental frills and I adored Japanese cuisine.

What's one thing you've been doing privately that you never do when in front of your friends.
I sing! Haha! No one, except my sister and few friends, knew that I can sing, that I am into singing. When I'm in front of  others I decline to sing because I find it uncomfortable. But when I'm with close friends and in front of videoke no one can stop me except exhaustion!

What was the last book you purchased?
Solo Flight. It's an inspirational book for people who seem getting hopeless to get married haha!

Facebook or Instagram which do you prefer?
Instagram! It's more interesting and awesome. I can follow and view photos of my favorite celebrities and public figures. And because basically, I love photography.

Who would you like to live like for a day?
If only he is not married yet, perhaps Evan Spiegel, founder of Snapchat. My God! He is so awesome, so hot and cute! Miranda Kerr is so lucky to have him.

Tell us your basic skincare.
I wear sunblock all the time. It's a very basic defense against premature aging. I wash my face before going to bed using a facial brightening foam from Garnier, the one with grapefruit, pomegranate and vitamin c extracts. I am also applying a vitamin skin serum to keep my face hydrated and young.

Any lifestyle you have that's slightly different from the rest?
I never hangout with friends in a bar or anywhere other than traveling. I don't drink alcoholic beverages. In fact, I haven't tried it ever since, not even light beer. I hate parties. I just want to stay at home and write stories. I am doing dance exercise every other day or whenever I can, to stay physically fit. I rarely eat meat, just limiting it to once a month. I rarely go to a fast food chain. I seldom eat chocolates. And I'm not into sweet food but I love blueberry cheesecake haha!

Coffee or Tea?
Tea of course. Green Tea in particular.

Pizza or Pasta.
Pasta, particularly baked penne, carbonara and bolognese

What annoys you?
People who are major show-off and no integrity. And girls who bounced on boys like hungry Labradors.

Things you hated?
Smell of cigarettes and distilled liquors. And standing in a long queue.

Your dreamed holiday destinations.
I have four. Mustique in the Caribbean. Veyvey in Switzerland. Tuscany in Italy and Kyoto in Japan.

Your dreamed job?
Screenwriter or documentary filmmaker. I hope I still could achieve any of this in my lifetime.

Have you eaten a lizard?
What? Hell. No!

What do you think a man could do to preserve the earth?
Enough awareness on global warming and knowledge over carbon footprints. Everyone must be aware that everyday we are contributing to the worsening condition of the warming of atmosphere. This is inevitable because the world is adopting a highly industrialized economy. But we can slow it down by being aware with our carbon footprints.

What is your greatest achievement so far?
Completing a suspense novel. It's been my dream to publish a book and having it done before reaching my prime age is such a great achievement. Not everyone can write a book I know that.

What are you most proud of?
That I can make sensible decisions and still single at this time haha! The best part of being single is that I can still rearrange my life plans, reconstruct my dreams and build goals all over again. No one is affected and I can still wish to marry someone I want to be with 😉

What's marriage for you?
It's a serious state that entails bigger responsibilities. I am still hoping I could get married of course to someone who would truly accept me despite my shortcomings. He is not necessarily the person whom I am madly inlove with but the one who is so level-head who is right there, at the right place, at the right time. A God's gift.

Where were you born?
In Sto.Nino, a small coastal barangay, part of the town of San Agustin in Surigao del sur. It's a place nestled between mountains and ocean.

How many places have you lived?
Other than my birthplace. I have been to many places. I was raised in a farm for the early part of my life. My father had a farm property. He ventured into poultry business, copra and abaca buying apart from his job in the government office. When I attended school we moved to a different town. I spent my college in Davao city and took up permanent residence there when I started working. I went to Cebu City for a time and lived there for 7 months before moving back to Davao for good. In 2013, after I obtained my master's degree in business, I relocated in Manila.

Have you traveled outside your country? If yes, where?
Yes. In Hongkong and Macau (2013), Vietnam and Cambodia (2015).

Which do you prefer, country or city?
I prefer a countryside. I'm a country girl by heart. And one of my yearnings is to build a small house in a suburban or in the country with a beautiful garden and oriental plants. And lots of windows.

Your dreamed pets?
A Siberian husky and a golden retriever. And any breed of cats! 🐈🐕

Books that have changed your life?
All self-developmental books. Living, Loving and Learning by Leo Buscaglia and The Road Less Traveled by M.Scott Peck.

Titanic or The Notebook?
Titanic! I like epic and tragic movies.

What's one movie that even thinking about it can make you cry?
The Greenmile. It was written by Stephen King and was made into movie by director Frank Darabont starring Tom Hanks. A very emotional movie which talks about injustices and unfair trial.

When was the last time you watch a movie in cinema?
Last year. July 2017. Dunkirk film. Though I love going out to the movies. I couldn't find a film to watch currently that's so worthy of my time, effort and money.

A feel-good song that you want to hear for the rest of your life.
Easy by Lionel Richie. So wonderful, so melodious and perfectly smooth. Every time I hear this song it makes me dream of living a suburban or country life and spend each morning jogging, walking with my dog or making breakfast outdoor with my family.

Things we never heard about you?
I know how to sketch a house design. All those structures and interiors. I dreamed to own a small house with a beautiful kitchen, a cozy living room and big French windows. I like gardening a lot so I often sketch a lovely dining area facing a beautiful oriental garden. I also designed dresses and bags. Most of my outfit in my high school years, including the red silk cocktail dress I worn to my senior prom, were made out of my sketches and designs. Part of me wanted a career in fashion and garments designing.

Once again, are you romantic? 😜
Hahaha! Geeez. I guess yes. I mean people are innately romantic. Even if we're not into a relationship. We can show affection towards someone even if the relationship is plain friendship. Romance is taken from the word Romans, which refer to the people of Rome. They are perceived to be very affectionate, compassionate and intimate. I'm compassionate towards many things, therefore, I'm romantic. 😀

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